Sunday, September 24, 2017

3 Steps to Manage Anger and Emotions More Effectively (Continued…)


Anger is one emotion that we have all felt at some point in our lives. However, the way we express and manage it can vary from person to person. For many around the world, anger is just a common emotion. Most have not felt it to an overwhelming amount in their lives.
For me, the story is different. Anger was a fierce emotion and it would consume me. I eventually realized that anger was not just an emotion in my case but a problem that needed to be resolved.

Why I Needed the Control?

When you let an emotion overwhelm or consume you, it can become a weakness. Emotions should be expressed but they say excess of everything is bad. Too many emotions make us vulnerable to the harsh world. But in case of anger, the situation is slightly different. Anger is not just something that affects you but the people around you.
Consider it as a metaphorical force of nature that leaves you wrecked as it leaves your body and then damages all other people in its way. It is ironic that subduing anger can also be a problem. In an attempt to save people, we often let the anger fester inside ourselves. And that is so much worse. The anger that festers rots us from the inside and erupts ferociously at some point. That explosion can cause lots of destruction in one’s life.

My Decision to Manage Anger

As I have mentioned that directing anger outwards all the time or subduing it can be destructive. The real solution is anger management. And many people don’t understand how to do that. I was the same. All I saw was two solutions. Either I needed to take out my anger or let it build up inside. Both solutions never worked.
My excess anger started to take a toll on me. I had already done so much damage and did not have the courage to suffer more. So I decided to develop a method for anger management. I tirelessly came up with FPS.

What is FPS?

FPS simply stands for feelings, problems, and solutions. The formula I used is Feeling + Problem = Solution.

How Does FPS Work?

FPS is based on three ways that will eventually lead you to manage your anger effectively and live a calmer life.

Feelings

The basic reason behind almost any anger is the feeling of being unheard. The anger clouds our judgment and we are more focused on expressing anger than actually saying what we wanted. So the first step is to communicate what you are feeling. Share what you want to be heard respectfully. And people will hear.

Problems

Now that people have heard you, it does not necessarily mean that understand. So sit down together and discuss the problems.

Solutions

With the expressed feelings and exposed problems, all parties involved will feel much calmer. This provides a sound situation to find solutions.
I highly prefer using this method if you are suffering like I did. I think FPS can work for most negative emotions.




Tuesday, September 19, 2017

FPS: HOW IT HAS CHANGED MY LIFE

FPS: HOW IT HAS CHANGED MY LIFE
FPS is not one of those scratch-at-the-surface, superficial and hence, ineffective techniques of managing anger, rather it is a down-to-the-root approach of managing and transforming the negative emotion of anger into a constructive emotion that could enhance your health, self-esteem, communication skills and emotional mastery.
Anger as an emotion is neutral, it is neither bad nor good. It is a normal reaction of man to situations and circumstances of life and it may either be productive or counterproductive. It is productive when you use it to make some self-assertion and demonstrate how passionate you are about something. However, it becomes counterproductive when it regularly spirals out of control or flares up too often. Chronic fits of anger emotion may have negative impacts on one’s health, relationships and state of mind.
However, the fact is managing and transforming anger emotion into positive vibes is one of the easiest and most natural things you can ever do, but that is only if you apply a practical, workable technique to deal with it and that is where our heuristically developed technique, FPS ( Feelings + Problem = Solutions), comes in handy.
It Deals With Anger
FPS is a life-transforming system that reprograms the way we think and reason, even at the subconscious level. It effectively attacks the root causes of the negative anger emotion and ‘weed them out'. It, in effect, changes our patterns of thoughts that are responsible for the explosive anger emotion. It also detects and defuses the hidden, pent-up feelings of anger which, like a time bomb, is waiting to explode someday.
It Enhances Communication Skills
The heartbeat of every healthy relationship is communication and proper communication skills foster understanding and peace in a society. FPS helps to improve positive, assertive communication skills. It helps an anger-prone, irritable individual to develop healthy relationships with others.
It Improves Self-Esteem
According to Psychology and Sociology, self-esteem has been described as the overall emotional appraisal of oneself. Having too little of it can cause depression, frustration, and nonfulfillment of potentials. FPS has proven to be effective in boosting self-esteem and hence, helps to have a sound understanding of whom we are thereby enhancing self-fulfillment.
It Enhances Emotion Mastery
Most health conditions have been linked with bad emotional status. Fluctuations in emotional levels is not good for one’s health. FPS enables you to have a firm grip on your emotions. It will also help you to stabilize your emotions and make you the master of it. Hence, you will be free to decide what you will do and how you respond to any external circumstances or provocations.

FPS is a product of years of practical application of its integral principles and techniques in the lives of many people who have suffered from fits of their own explosive anger. The system has proven its efficacy by transforming the lives of such people. It is, undoubtedly, a perfect solution for managing and transforming negative anger emotion into a positive and constructive emotion which drives achievement and creativity.